Or...What Does It Take To Be A Good Mother?
Witness a sight seen all too often in our household: our son in time-out
(picture deleted after I found it in Google Images without my permission)
And let me give you a glimpse into my bedside table reading:
Raising Your Spirited Child Mary Sheedy Kurcinka (autographed)
Why Did You Do That? Burt Segal, LCSW
Parenting the strong-willed child Rex Forehand
Kids, Parents, and Power StrugglesMary Sheedy Kurcinka (autographed)
Setting Limits with your strong-willed child Robert Mackenzie
Supernanny Jo Frost*
Siblings Without Rivalry Adele Faber
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk Adele Faber
1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children 2-12Thomas Phelan
Systematic Training for Effective Parenting (STEP) of Children Under Six**
The Art of Sensitive Parenting:The 10 keys to raising confident, competent and responsible childrenKatharine Kersey
Momfidence! An Oreo never killed anybody and other secrets of happier parenting Paula Spencer*
Sippy Cups Are Not for Chardonnay: And Other Things I Had to Learn as a New Mom Stefanie Wilder-Taylor*
Just Two More Bites!: Helping Picky Eaters Say Yes to FoodLinda Piette
*ones I have actually read
The delightful Miriam, Stacy and Andi over at MotherTalk have initiated the very first MotherTalk Blog Bonanza today, Friday, April 27, 2007. Everyone who participates will be writing about the topic Fearless Friday, in honor of Arianna Huffington's book, Becoming Fearless (Thank You Pundit Mom for alerting me to the bonanza because now I have a chance to win an autographed copy of the book - you can too, just go on over to MotherTalk and find out how).
The challenge for Fearless Friday is to write about a fearless moment in my life or a moment when I started becoming fearless. Well, what does it mean, exactly, to be "fearless" anyway? The dictionary says it is an adjective that means "without fear; bold or brave; intrepid." In my early years and well into my 20's, I would not have described me as "bold" or "brave" in any way, shape or form. I spent my life as an individual who was decidedly lacking courage; I was as timorous as a mouse, always following the crowd rather than forging my own path. I worked hard at school, did my chores, went to college, married my high school sweetheart, all because I felt it was expected of me. So at what point did I "feel the fear and do it anyway?"
Was it at the point that I kicked out my husband for cheating and drinking and abuse? Was it the point at which I hired an attorney to divorce his ass? Maybe it was when I packed up all my things and moved half way across the country to start anew. Or when I moved into an apartment in a city where I knew not a soul and started to make a life.
When you look at the rest of my life, I think I've done a good job at becoming more "fearless." I went on a blind date with my second husband, move to another state with him, married him, buried him. I grieved, I started life anew, once again. I answered an on-line personals ad, let my date pick me up at my house, married him after only 4 months. I turned my back on a lifetime of "childless by choice" and had two children with him. I quit a stable job when I had my son, without any job waiting in the wings, with only the assurance that my degrees made meemployable and I would find something else. I started a new job and left it for an entirely different one when I felt my morals (and my license) were in danger if I stayed working where I was. I plunged head first back into public accounting. Every day I navigate the stormy waters of "parenting while working full time outside the home" while attempting not to lose my very self in the process. I am Fearless. I'm trying to teach my daughter to be the same.What makes you Fearless?
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